Liked. The problem is what happens when you don’t get what you want. The problem is how you view the worst case scenario.
There is nothing inherently wrong with wanting to perform or look better, truly! But there is something wrong with ➡️
A) “I don’t look good”
B) “I want to look better”
C) (does whatever to look better)
D) the high of looking better
E) It doesn’t pan out how you imagined!
F) *Fuck!!!! My life is over!”*
That’s the problem.
How you view the worst case scenario.
If that wasn’t the main problem I’d say “the only way to recover is by being okay looking like a .0005/10 and performing like a sloth who just drank 15 shots forever”.
You hear a lot of philosophies talking about having no desire. Not realistic in my eyes. Desire isn’t the problem! How you view NOT being desirable or how you view NOT getting what you want IS the problem.
Self esteem doesn’t explain that.
Self esteem is a house built on stilts.